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Wednesday, February 20, 2008

The Crab Mentality,the Crab Situation and All the Filipino Crabness Are Found Inside Your House!!

Afraid to be poor? Afraid to be down? Why don't you pull your friends with you so you are not alone? Why don't you pull your neighbors down so you have companions? This is the usual understanding and explanation of a "crabness" or crab mentality. "If I cannot have it, no one must have it." When a crab doesn't want to get cooked inside a cooking pot or"kawali" or anything for cooking, they pull each other for survival or simply to get even but in the end, they all get cooked! This is the same situation in the Philippines. In short, INGGIT!

But is this really the case? The one that I see which is the biggest hindrance to the success of Filipinos is a little revision of this so called "crab mentality". It it not INGGIT per se but the "asa" thing. I do hate this concept and system in the country. I HATE IT SO MUCH! I know a lot of my readers and a lot of you may disagree but this is how I see it.

In a family where there are four children (typical of a Pinoy family), and of course, a mother and a father. The mother and father let (or force) child number 1 to study....study...study...study and make your life better. Then you will let your younger siblings study with your income. This we start with parents' irresponsibilities again. Because for me, the total welfare of the children are all the responsibilities of the parents. NOT of the other child, especially the older one.

Kuya/Ate has graduated and must spend for the other younger siblings. Also MUST give some amount to parents. While kuya/ate suffers from debts, tiredness and overtime and cannot even make even a 2% savings of her income, Nanay and Tatay are so proud of Kuya/Ate for he/she is the breadwinner now. And the younger siblings enjoy their allowance, spend here, smoke there and drink everywhere.

Kuya/Ate grow old with responsibility. At times, the younger siblings are not able to graduate because after all, kuya/ate is there to give money and provide. And kuya/ate who strived hard HAS NO WAY to improve his/her own life. Has no way to breath better, has no way to invest in his/her future. And this situation is not only one in the country...almost all. And among the four children, there is no one who becomes "better off" in life. When kuya/ate gets married, the parents feel bad. Yes, they don't have enough enjoyment of kuya/ate's remittance yet. And when Kuya/Ate starts a family, he/she must start from zero, debts, without investment and poor. And the cycle goes on and on and on and no improvement. And now we ask why majority of the Filipinos are poor? Just see at the syste, I have explained.

I can see that Filipinos can be caring and loving but all is priced with money. Only hypocrites do not admit this. Parents want their children to have rich spouse, or have better work...mostly because they are expecting something back. I hate the family system in my country. I have to tell. I hate the family system in Philippines. Where one relies to one in the family who has resources, where one of the family member has a chance to be better, the rich of the family is pulling him/her down. And the rest of the family become irresposnsible because the breadwinner is there. But overall, it is how the parents teach the children. The children are brainwashed and really feel that it is their responsibilty when in fact, it is the parents' responsibility. And if you/kuya/ate has little and save for herself/himself and just give out just enough, you/kuya/ate is already bad in the eyes of the public. THIS IS AN INJUSTICE THAT EVERYONE IN THE PHILIPPINES TOLERATES!




I do hope a law will be passed in the country that if a parent cannot make their child/children graduate in school of at least two years college, they will be imprisoned. In this way, population will be controlled and potential irresponsible parents wont F_CK simply to create a child without responsibility. I cannot tell how many of the parents in the country are irresponsible. But i can say AT LEAST seventy-five percent. This is my observation and you can comment what you have observed. You are welcome here.

39 comments:

  1. I think that this is a problem common of to third world countries. Until your country does not adopt a welfare politics like pensions and unemployment allowance, the people can only use their sons to face and survive the old age.

    I guess that for your country is in the period of transition when the middle class will affirm their rights. Also you Filipinos must face the egoistic way of life that you can see in the industrial countries like your model U.S of A. Certainly in our countries (industrialized ones, Europe, etc) the parents will help the children as long as they are alive and NEVER vice versa. And in some cases, many youngsters kill the older relatives for inhjeritance...HAHAHA...

    Bye!

    Ia3Sha

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  2. Somehow you got the point...have a blessed day! add my other site..i'll be adding you there..

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  3. "I do hope a law will be passed in the country that if a parent cannot make their child/children graduate in school of at least two years college, they will be imprisoned" - what an idea! hahaha, sana nga me ganito noh para lahat ng Filipino edukado.

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  4. I have added your link in my page and hope you will add mine. Thanks ;0

    As for your post, I do agree. I want to give my opinion about Crab mentality in my blog someday. Thanks for the heads up.

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  5. In some point, I do agree with everything you said here. I think what you said are true. This "Asa" system is very visible among Filipino families. I admit, it is also visible in my family where I am the eldest. My parents wanted me to shoulder my siblings studies.. and because I am mature, I do support my siblings... not fully but just enough as a support. I don't find it as a responsibility at all or a hindrance to my success. Instead, they are one of my inspirations for my success. I guess it all depend on the person on how she can achieve success despite everything. I think what Filipinos should learn is to motivate themselves despite every struggles on the shoulders. I guess the point is that stability first for your family and self before marriage.

    Also, parents should not give their responsibilities to their eldest son or daughter. It is their responsibility to give what their kids needs, and the eldest child will only be there to support, hindi para akuin and responsibilidad nila.

    I hope I shared my point ;D Interesting topic, by the way.

    Hye of Space of Reality

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  6. Hi Ia3sha! You have a point there. But how can we do it in Philippines when the same amount/area of land in Europe that we have in Philippines, we have three to six times the number of population? When you have 26 million population, we have 100 million?

    And if Filipinos can handle to rely ("asa") on their families, how much more withthe government? I guess if we do have assistance like you said, no one will work. I mean, we have this kind of culture that I cannot explain...the "bahala na" ... and the "isang kahig, isang tuka"... anyway, it's really difficult to explain but I guess we cannot have this welfare system if our population continues to grow... and EXPONENTIALLY growing!

    Ia3sha said:
    "I think that this is a problem common of to third world countries. Until your country does not adopt a welfare politics like pensions and unemployment allowance, the people can only use their sons to face and survive the old age.

    I guess that for your country is in the period of transition when the middle class will affirm their rights. Also you Filipinos must face the egoistic way of life that you can see in the industrial countries like your model U.S of A. Certainly in our countries (industrialized ones, Europe, etc) the parents will help the children as long as they are alive and NEVER vice versa. And in some cases, many youngsters kill the older relatives for inhjeritance...HAHAHA...

    Bye!"

    Ia3Sha

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  7. Hi Mica and Emotera. Yes, I'll be adding it. Thanks.

    And Emotera, it's not only for education purposes. This way our population be minimized and the government can at least give more amount of benefit to each one of the Pinoys if di masyadong marami. And of course, this way, uunlad nga tayo. Thanks...
    Please send me the link of your "Integrity post"...am very interested to it.

    Mica said:
    "Somehow you got the point...have a blessed day! add my other site..i'll be adding you there.."

    Emotera Said:
    "I do hope a law will be passed in the country that if a parent cannot make their child/children graduate in school of at least two years college, they will be imprisoned" - what an idea! hahaha, sana nga me ganito noh para lahat ng Filipino edukado."

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  8. Sassy mind, thanks for a quick come back and following my x-link instructions. It's only an article but I don't really know how to help in making our country improve. I think after i go back in Ph, i start with my own barangay


    Oh by the way, i'll be adding you too in a short moment...just replying here.
    Sassy mind said:
    "I have added your link in my page and hope you will add mine. Thanks ;0

    As for your post, I do agree. I want to give my opinion about Crab mentality in my blog someday. Thanks for the heads up."

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  9. friend, i felt the hatred in your post. made me read without blinking feel the fire bursting from within- hate.
    the asa system, its true and it's very visible among those belonging to the lower rank of the society, of course.
    ok asa system may be accepted in my opinion (simply because the parents are old already- that fact cannot be changed) but what i would be hating is when the elder fails his/her parents or end up just like his/her parents. change should be initiated by him/her being the eldest who is more experienced and learned.
    i agree with hye for i have bestowed this responsibility to myself being the eldest daughter but it is up to "that elder" to plan for his/her life.
    An elder would willingly do it because of his/her love to his siblings and the siblings should pay back the hardships of their older brother/sister- that way the "asa" system is cut.
    about the law, if one day ill be in congress and one is passing such, i will be the one to negate it :) reason behind is, i cannot initiate a law which will put all my constituents in prison. who would be left if ill do it? instead, i will pass law that will improve our education and population system. that way, better change will be achieved. if my constituents are still hard headed, that would be the time ill use my harsh policy.
    better change can be achieved by better ways (original ko to) inspired by your post.

    xin chiao! :)

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  10. hahahah! yeah it's on my main blog emotera.com. hope to see you there. inupdate ko na yung profile ko to show the most important blogs. =)

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  11. i agree my friend you got a point well this crab mentality is a kind of attitude that a filipino really poseses this is almost the same of other negative things like colonial mentality,the filipino time and bahala na attitude
    sometimes i think its not really the government to start a change in our country
    everything must begin with ourselves

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  12. hi..! ^_^ alam mo, yan din ang nararamdaman minsan ko being the eldest. Hindi nman sa pinaaaku ng parents ko lahat ng responsibilities sakin after i graduate(they just want me to study hard and finish my studies and be a good model to my siblings). pero alam mo 'yong feeling na you have that responsibility kahit walang nagsasabi o nag-uutos sayo? nakatatak na kasi sa kultura natin ang ganyang sistema eh. We Filipinos are very family-centered.
    talagang may mga parents na ganyan mag-isip. papag-aralin ang panganay na anak nang sa gayo'y pagnakatapos eh s'ya naman ang magpapaaral sa mga kapatid nya. pero minsan nasa tao(panganay) talaga yan eh. syempre iniisip din nya yong kalagayan ng parents nya. nakatapos na sya and since nakakaipon na siya, talagang tutulong yan sa pamilya nya hindi dahil may umuobliga sa kanya at kailangan n'ya kundi dahil iyon ang nararamdaman nyang dapat at 'yon ang gusto n'ya. "Pagmamahal sa pamilya" ang tawag don.

    remember, you are the master of yourself. ano man ang sabihin nila o i-utos, ikaw at ikaw parin ang masusunod. kaya tayo naghihirap dahil ito ang gusto natin! WALA tayong ginagawa para umunlad ang ating bansa. Kung may ginagawa man, iyon ay para sa sariling kapakanan!

    i guess that's all i can say...

    :) good day and God bless..

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  13. Malayong mangyari na magkaroon ng ganyang batas.
    Sa isang bansa kung saan ang senador,representante, hinahanggang artisa,at maging presidente ay may ilang pamilya, anak sa labas. Bakit ba nananalo pa ang mga ito.Macho kasi sa isang lalake diba?Isa sa katangian ng patriyarkal na lipunan.
    HUwag nating kalimutan na malaki ang kapangyarihan at impluwensiya ng simbahang Katoliko sa ating pamahalaan. Subukan mong ihain ang ganyang batas sa kamara,hindi ka mananalo sa eleksyon.

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  14. Thank you so much for sharing your views, Hye. I know you are right. And I know that you have reason to feel that it is an inspiration. As I hhave told, this culture and belief is already running deep in our bloods. It is there as it is. This is "THE CORRECT" act in the "EYES OF THE PUBLIC" and in the "EYES OF THE CHURCH". We are judged this way. What do you think will happen to one who got married just after graduation while the sisters/brothers are in school? HE?SHE is DESPISED, both by the public and his/her OWN "FAMILY".

    I do love your views here and I cnnot blame you, again, for believing so. I used to believe the same thing when I was there.... when I was not able how others, in the countries that are progressive act... but some things change when I observed and analyze things...

    Hye said:

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    Also, parents should not give their responsibilities to their eldest son or daughter. It is their responsibility to give what their kids needs, and the eldest child will only be there to support, hindi para akuin and responsibilidad nila."

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  15. I smell politics here! Sniff sniff! i am sure I do smell politics here! Hmmm... pang senador ah! Wow, without blinking pa. Like how I read you post din pala...but here we are.

    I focus only on one part because the other point you have, I answered in Hye's comment.. it's a bit similar.

    About the law, you will not find your sonstituents imprisoned right away. To pass it needs preparation:

    1. Bigger prison with handicraft -making facilities inside plus a little learning center;

    2. The allowance for those who are planning to married, like couples married starting this date or couple who have children this age.. of course.. A "more' PUNITIVE LAW cannot be RETRPACTIVE?? I dunno if my memory serves me right... you are the authority in this topic.

    3. Compromising with the church... making negotiations if they would support (we have to admit that the church is the ULTIMATE power" in Ph)This is another solution creating another. People will be afraid to have UNSAFE and IRRESPONSIBLE sexual activity.. ( for the church's favor)... and people/couple must refrain from "MASS PRODUCTION" of babies....

    4. More educational facilities and school are needed and of course teachers...

    5. Information Dessimination to all "not very knowledgeable" parents and also to secluded ares and the mountains...

    Those are the top five preparations I can think of now.. We all know that it takes a whole term for some laws to be passed.

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  16. Continuation for my answer to Ginabeloved...

    And one more thing. I know that this is an IMPOSSIBLE suggestion. One, the lawmakers will never make this law succeed. People in power will not be able to FURTHER FOOL and CORRUPT the Filipino community if all have brain!

    If all are educated, we would have lots of lawyers to study and understand the dirty acts of people in power... and if many are educated, they have no one to pay anymore to rally for their CAUSE (daw) or their side.

    If all/,amny are eduated, their power is in danger... where they reign and believe to be th eonly ones stepping in universities in their town/cities... they are the only so called "EDUKADOS"..

    I know this is futile because of so many reasons.. but of course we are free to venture into ideas and possibilites and that what has come to my mind.

    Education is the key to progress... NOT ONLY monetary but the fact that we are hard to be fooled if we are educated is already a big leap for us.

    I have seen and gave obsreved how narrow-minded the common Filipinos are... those who have not enough/proper education. I see some crooked ideas forming in their minds... want an example?

    Well, one is: Voting the one who gave 500 during election time. This is one big nsrrow mindedness!

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  17. Hi Emotera. No problem, I'll be there soon. Thanks for updating me here.

    Emotera said:
    "hahahah! yeah it's on my main blog emotera.com. hope to see you there. inupdate ko na yung profile ko to show the most important blogs. =)"

    And hi bluedreamer. Thanks for visiting. The fact is, with the poverty in the nation it's is very difficult to take away this bad attitude. We are not th eonly ones who have this attitude though, only that it is more pronounced/visible in our community.

    bluedreamer27 said:
    "i agree my friend you got a point well this crab mentality is a kind of attitude that a filipino really poseses this is almost the same of other negative things like colonial mentality,the filipino time and bahala na attitude
    sometimes i think its not really the government to start a change in our country
    everything must begin with ourselves"

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  18. Weng, I am not saying that it is wrong to feel so. As I said, it is natural for us because we have opened our eyes on this exisitng culture that we have. And as I said again, I belived the same way until some realizations stuck me.

    1. My Korean students ask me why children have to give back to parents. They told me that in South Korea, it's only parents to children.. but if the parents are so good making the children succeed, the children can help the parents but it is not obligatory.

    One of my students before told me that it is a BIG shame for parents in South Korea if they cannot let their children be educated with their own efforts.

    2. Here in Italy, the same reality happens. Look at the post of the first commentor... I see the truth in the opinion posted. Parents here are very responsible when it comes to their children. they can be as poor as a rat, but you can see how they give still, to their children... eve the latter has better lives.

    3. Here, the moment a daughter reaches the teen age.. 9-15, the mother already buys a whole set of kitchen facilities, comforters and all the needs of a newly wed. This is because they made it a responsibility that even they (parents) die before the child marries, she will have something to start with.

    4. Have you seen the movie "Pay It Forward"... The parents cannot ask something or any responsibility from children. They don't have the right to impose "UTANG NA LOOB". Why? They too were kids once and their parents have made them live and grow. So why don't pay it forward? They pay by having kids too. It's always a forward payment, not backwars. That's why I don't like it because the children are supposed to be pampered.. and that can be repaid when your children will have childrean and so on...

    Wng said:
    "hi..! ^_^ alam mo, yan din ang nararamdaman minsan ko being the eldest. Hindi nman sa pinaaaku ng parents ko lahat ng responsibilities sakin after i graduate(they just want me to study hard and finish my studies and be a good model to my siblings). pero alam mo 'yong feeling na you have that responsibility kahit walang nagsasabi o nag-uutos sayo? nakatatak na kasi sa kultura natin ang ganyang sistema eh. We Filipinos are very family-centered."

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  20. hello ilove phil just dropping by to say have a great day

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  21. After I read through this blog and all the comment pasted before me, I have a clearer picture of your country.
    Now, your know the problems existed for a long time, may be through discussion and recommendation , to really find out the better solution.
    Firstly, to have the awareness of this problems.
    Together, your can improve the old system. With support from your government and citizens, gradually change the present situation. It needs time, can not happen in overnight.

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  22. hello just dropping by here again have a great day

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  23. Wow bluedreamer.. I am currently in your page actually.. will be making a comment of course in your asian novelas... and I have asked a personal favor as well. Thanks for always dropping by... Take care.

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  24. Hi coolingstar.. Thanks for reading and for the suggestions. You are right. It needs unity and it doen not really happen over night. Thank you so much and take care.

    coolingstar9 said:
    "After I read through this blog and all the comment pasted before me, I have a clearer picture of your country.
    Now, your know the problems existed for a long time, may be through discussion and recommendation , to really find out the better solution.
    Firstly, to have the awareness of this problems.
    Together, your can improve the old system. With support from your government and citizens, gradually change the present situation. It needs time, can not happen in overnight"

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  25. Malayong mangyari yan.
    Naalala niyo ba na ipinagbawal ng simbahang katoLIKO ang pagpapalabas ng pelikulang Da Vinci Code sa Maynila?

    Hindi ko na ipaliliwanag pa kung gaano kalakas ang simbahan.

    Maiba ako,nakapagprehistro na ako doon sa Cosmotourist.Nagbigay ako ng positibong puna at *thumbs up sa artikulo mo.Ganoon na ba ang pagboto?

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  26. Hi ANono! You are right.. sobrang lakas ng katoLIKO... hmmm.. sobra. Well, I dunno. I have been to a university without bounds so whatever the church prohibits, it is allowed inside our university.. I guess you know which one.. hehehe.. I really think that the church is one BIG cause for our poverty actuually.. I dunno.. I am not sure if you do agree... but what can we do? It's in the people after all.. If they listen and believe all the time.. What I mean is, it's all traditions and rights. God is everywhere and not only inside an old stone building which was made by torture and force labor of our poor Filipino ancestors with the "POLO" system centuries back.

    Ay, yes, thanks a lot. I have seen your vote.. I have invited you as a friend there.. hmmm.. sana may image, parang mukhang totoo.. ang dami kasi namemeke para lang manalo... Haaayyy..

    Salamat uli..

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  27. Hi,
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    I wish my contribution and support can help you become the ultimate winner for that competation.
    Best wishes to you.

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  28. Wow! I cannot believe it! I thank you all guys... I was astonished! I was trying my luck with all of you and have never believed that you'd really do it! Wow! Win or no win in that contest but one thing is for sure, you all never failed me and that is what made me really happy!

    Thanks to the following:
    Anino
    Coolingstar9
    Emotera and of course
    The Melirist

    Now I have seen your real names but of course, I wont say it here! hehehe

    Thanks again!

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  29. Good post. Very typical ito sa mga pinoys. Pero minsan, hindi mo rin naman masisi ang mga magulang dahil nga sa kahirapan ng buhay. Pero dahil mahirap na nga hindi naman dapat mag-anak ng marami. Haay! nakakalito na di ba?

    Salamat sa pagbisita. Hope to see you again. ;) Ingat.

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  30. I totally agree with you!!! I’ve often critiqued the Filipino parents’ mentality myself.

    I am a 22-year old Filipino student in Canada about to graduate from university this year and youngest of two children.

    What is bugging me recently is how my mom and her partner tries to manipulate the way I think regarding the financial and social responsibilities that I should keep in mind and should fulfill even after I move out of their place.

    These financial responsibilities include:
    1. Letting my mom retire early.
    2. Give monthly allowance to parents.
    3. Help them pay off their mortgage.
    4. Send my OLDER IRRESPONSIBLE sister to school and pay off her $13,000 debts.
    5. Pay for my own god-damn $30,000 student loan myself.
    6. Sponsor at least one relative from the Philippines to Canada.
    7. Send at least one relative to university in the Philippines.
    8. Take over my mom’s financial responsibility by sending monthly allowance to her siblings, my cousins and other ‘poor’ relatives back home.

    I am also expected to get a $40,000 salary right after graduation, my salary must be higher than their salaries combined. My boyfriend should also be rich and not someone who is also on student loan, which is the case (my 4-year bf is also expected to finish paying her mom’s mortgage and pay for his younger brother’s school; her mom also has a partner but he doesn’t pay shit for anything because he thinks her children should do those things for her).

    I don’t plan nor intend to follow any of these traditional Filipino shit. I don’t mind helping my parents with household work nor giving them expensive gifts or even money on mother’s day, birthdays and Christmas, BUT it definitely should not go as far as the ridiculous monthly allowance nor the whole paying off their mortgage thing! What the fuck will be left for my own fucking mortgage, utility bills, food, gas in addition to the cost of raising children!?!?! Do they even think of how expensive the standard of living in Toronto is?! Or how about my own plans for my future children like sending them to prestigious schools, sending them abroad to study, and paying for their undergraduate, masters and postdoctoral education!?!

    I hope to end this whole typecasting of Filipinos as socially and financially-disadvantaged race in Canada who only works as nannies or who are mostly found in retail, factory, hotels, and restaurants! Invest in your children’s fucking education for fuck sake. Send your children to PRIVATE SCHOOLS. Hire a tutor if you must. Help your children with their homework. Get involved in their school activities and find out about the school curriculum to see whether it is right for your kids. Send your kids to piano lessons, valet lessons, and what not. And most importantly, don’t have more than 1 child if you know you can’t afford it!!!

    Filipino parents in Canada should also stop emphasizing the GREAT OPPORTUNITIES and the HUGE INCOME that their children will get once they’ve managed to graduate in this so-called land of opportunity. Can’t we have a better conversation that is more productive like discussing school-related things and plans for further education? A discussion on current problems faced by Filipinos for instance instead of always saying that their children are so lucky to be in Canada? Clearly, ideas like these penetrate into the minds of newcomers who find themselves working as janitors, earning an hourly wage that is perhaps higher than the wage of doctors back home, and will say to themselves, “yeah, this job isn’t so bad after all.”, and next thing you know you are a 65-year old who have not really accomplished anything FOR KEEPS. There are better things than working as a janitor in Canada. Filipinos should stop comparing their income to the income of those back home, because in the first world people can earn up to $300, 000 as professionals if they would only invest their time and money on education instead of the $30-$35,000 average income that you can get as nannies, janitors, etc.

    I am not saying these things to make some Filipinos feel bad or to discriminate against my own race but I am simply stating what I think is wrong with Filipinos’ mentality. So maybe instead of trying to look on the “bright” side of things by comparing your situation to the situation of those in the third world, why don’t you compare your situation to those in the first world? Look at the filthy rich Jewish lawyers and doctors for instance. Let’s stop attributing our situation to our colonial past, corrupted officials, and to the financial obligations that we have to our relatives back home, because to some extent, Filipinos invoke these things as an excuse for their failure to go beyond what they are capable of doing.

    I appreciate your blog entry so much. I am glad to know that there are other Filipinos who think the way I do regarding the family structure and system of Filipinos. I hope blogs like this one are read by the many young Filipinos, especially Filipino parents.



    OPINION OF Justine Cabrera

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  31. minsan alam nyo hindi "tulong" ang tawag dyan sa tinutukoy nyo eh, as this blog said "crab mentality" talaga. kasi minsan pag nagpapadala kami ng pera sa Pilipinas para lang i-abswelto kung ano mang' kataratuduhan ginawa ng iba naming kamag-anak don.

    biruin nyo afford nga nilang mag-computer at mag-internet tapos pagdating sa sarili nila i-aasa pa sayo. ang mga taong tinutulungan ay yung mga: may kapansanan, lumpo, bulag, walang kamay at paa, na-aksidenteng tao, na-sunugan ng bahay at kung ano ano pa.

    basta yung mga minalas sa buhay at hinde yung mga iresponsable at tangang tao na anak lang ng anak tapos i-aasa lang lahat sa mas masikap sa kanila. lahat naman ng nakatira sa ibang bansa ay may parehong access sa opportunity para baguhin sitwasyon nila.

    pero magtataka kung bakit ang dami parin mga pilipinong kabataan ngayon sa ibang bansa na hinde nagsusumikap sa pag-aaral at pagta-trabaho. kaya tingin ko crab mentality talaga ang mostly filipino.

    kapag alam kasi ng isang taong may maasahan sila, mas aasa pa sila at magpapahirap dahil alam nilang tutulungan parin sila kahit papano...at saka, kung narirealize pala ng mga pinoy sa pilipinas ang totoong hirap sa buhay, e bakit nagko-contribute parin sila sa hirap ng buhay nila? tulad nga ng pag-aanak ng madami at hinde pagsusumikap sa pag-aaral. madalas inaatupag pagba-barkada, inuman at pagso-syota.

    ewan ko, masyado lang kasi tong' nakakapagtaka. ang taong alam ang totoong hirap, magpupursige dapat diba at hinde magpapahirap ng iba.

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  32. I can relate this topic. I enjoyed reading your views. You can write and I admire you for speaking out. You tell it like it is, and I like that.

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  33. If you want a first-hand account of what the Crab Mentality does, read the story of a Canadian priest whose career would be destroyed by this terrible Filipino Trait.

    Father Tony Martin was the founding father of two of the largest & most successful cooperative institutions in the Philippines, the Visayas Cooperative Development Center (VICTO) & the National Confederation of Cooperatives (NATCCO).

    At the height of his career in the Philippines in 1979, he was struck down by his former colleagues who wanted to take his place.

    Learn about his story at :

    www.anthonymartinmemorial.com

    AMMF - Toronto, Canada

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  34. I just read all the comments of everybody, the same way happens to me from my family, i was in bad situation because ,they didnt have that dream on me, not the one that will succeed. my parents put all there hopes and dreams to the eldest sibling blinded by the crab mentallity that my sister will help them and help other siblings. I end up helping my eldest sister too ,when the time it was my turn to finished college my sister said what about my needs and wants after that she became disgrasyada. My father went balistic end up saying lumayas kayong lahat mga walang silbi. I end up looking for a full time job to support my own education became so tired with all the bullshit my family have. Well, to make the story short , I end up alright , i helped my sister next to me , and she's now there bread winner shes kinda brain washed thats its her obligation to help everybody for electricity, food and what ever bill in the house is. She became more strict than me towards our youngest sibling, than i was with her when she was in college. I was helping the youngest sibling too till i found out he was partying and having girlfriends. I just hope that everthing will change someday. I dont like the ''E asa mo kay ate dahil ang income niya ay dolyares,,because me and my husband have a future too of our own to think of but thats the way it is in philippines. I do help only if its emergency now...

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  35. The question,is there anything that is being done to correct or repair and to stop this never ending parasitic cycle of the Filipino culture? In my opinion this won't stop unless all young Filipino generation be taught in all educational institutions about cultural reform in the whole country.

    This parental tactics to make their children to feel guilty has to stop. It is not the responsibility of their children to help their parents and the whole family. The children should not be obligated to help their parents financialy. It is the other way around. The only thing they owe them is respect and nothing else. Parents should stop making babies if they can not affort to support their children at all.

    I hope the young Filipino generation starts smelling the coffee and starts the reform of the Filipino culture for the beterment of the whole Filipino race. Good luck and God bless the Philippines.

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  36. FINALLY... SOMEONE THINKS LIKE I DO. I DONT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH MY SIBLINGS BECAUSE WE GREW UP IN AMERICA... BUT I SEE THIS TO OTHER FILIPINOS, MY COUSINS AND MY DAD, MOM AND AUNTIES.. ITS A SHAME. MY GRANDMA DID TO MY MOM, MY AUNT IS DOING IT TO MY DAD.. ITS LIKE A DOMINO AFFECT... WHAT A SHAME..

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  37. the better solution i guess is population control! one-child policy!!
    alot of people are idoits,
    wala na nga pera anak pa nang anak
    dinadagdagan pa nila ung bilang ng taong
    walang bahay at hindi makapag aral.
    then theyll blame the gov't for their poverty.

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  38. Well, I have a solution to it all...marry a black American then your family will disown you b/c you are too much of an embarrassment for them...sad, but very true!

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